Everyone knows that sex is a great pleasure but nonetheless not anyone can get the most of it. Women sexuality is still the topic of multiple researches and studies and that is not for nothing. Many years women sexuality was a prohibited and unknown area; either not discussed or considered rather a myth, than a reality. The result of the strict bring-up and lack of information made a lot of women reconcile themselves to the fact that being sexual is a man\'s prerogative and thus depriving them of the opportunity to have a satisfying and fulfilling sex life.

Fears and anxiety feelings many women experience in their intimate life can act as a destructive tool and thus inhibit the natural way to express yourself sexually.

So what are fears that keep women from bringing out their sexuality?

1.Fear of being unattractive

What is the core of the fear?

Many women consider themselves too fat or too skinny, having small breasts, short legs, or any other "drawback" may well become a serious barrier in expressing your physical side. A perfect body image of a model  or celebrity makes many women approach their body with prejudice and too much criticism and thus suppressing their sexuality.

How to deal

First step in overcoming this fear is to come to terms with your own self-esteem and body image. There is not such thing as perfect body, as all of us are individuals. Try to look at your body more realistically. There are things that are hard to change nor they need to be changed. It can be your charming feature or your "defect" depending on the attitude you have towards your own body. Surely you can work on to improve your body image, like keeping to healthy diet or regular exercises, but the primary thing to consider is to realize you are unique and attractive in your own way.

2. Fear of not having an orgasm

What is the core of the fear?

As today women are more aware of their sexual potential they sometimes go to the other extreme, thinking that every act should be accompanied by an orgasm by all means. Though we don\'t mean to underestimate the importance of having an orgasm, sex marathon for achieving orgasm seem to create more trouble than pleasure. And in case a woman was not able to reach the big O the fear becomes even greater. 

How to deal

Remember that sex is mutual pleasure, not a work or necessity. When you focus on the result you become too much concerned and tense, which actually prevents you from getting relaxed, which in its turn is an obstacle to sexual arousal. Concentrate on your sensations rather than the orgasm you "have to achieve".

3. Fear of hurting men\'s self-esteem

What is the core of the fear? A lot of women prefer to play "guess what" game and keep silence when actually words are necessary.  Some men may even be unaware of his wife\'s or girlfriend\'s sexual frustration as women avoid talking intimate problems openly because they think their partner will feel offended 

How to deal

Nobody knows your body better than you do. Thus hinting your partner on what pleases you better is a constructive way to get the desired pleasure. Giving a clue on what feels better to you is not the same as being too directive or pushy. There are many ways to tell your partner about things which are enjoyable or not quite. Use your body and make sexual journey by guiding his hand with your hand. It would be clear if you back off unwanted stimulation and moan when he is on the right path to exciting orgasm.

4. Fear of rejection and intimacy

What is the core of the fear? Sex experience of once being rejected or offended may have an adverse influence your intimate relationships now. Such experience may not be a pleasant one or could have been connected with negative feelings that\'s why getting intimate may seem quite a problem for you. Many sex fears may even have their roots in the early childhood when relationships within your family were far from trusting and warm-hearted and still have its impact on your sexual life.

How to deal

If you feel you can deal with the problem alone, try talking to your partner openly and explain the core of your sexual inhabitance. It may be news to your partner that you are not feeling intimate enough on psychological level and thus making it plain is an essential step towards your sexual health.